One of the reoccurring themes of my life as been defending my decisions to others who would have made other decisions.
- “I don’t know why you had to move across the country.”
- “Why would you want to pay to become certified as a business coach?”
- “Are you qualified to do that?”
- “Why don’t you just…?”
- “It’s not as easy as it looks.”
- “It’s not like the movies.”
When presented with the opportunity to defend any decision on the planet that you’ve made that’s suddenly up for the discussion of others; show ’em your moxie and get on with your day.
Moxie: force of character, verve, determination
It’s poor form to respond to these self centered and judgmental questions with sarcasm or rudeness, take it from….someone who might have already gone down that road for you….
People aren’t saying things like the above mentioned with the intent to wreck your courage or your commitment. They’re saying these things out of their own fear, anxiety, doubt, or worry. As a matter of fact, rarely, would these questions ever be thought about from the listener’s perspective. They are most always from the speaker’s perspective.
But take it from me: any opportunity you get to call someone out for their lack of consideration or care for you or your goals/dreams? Nobody’s going to fight for your career or your wellbeing better than you can. If you want to take your shot and bet on yourself, you’ve got to; In the words of Robert Downey Jr. “Smile. Nod. Agree, then go do whatever you were going to do anyway.”